9 Practical First Birthday Tips For Busy Parents

Your baby’s first birthday is near. But there’s work, business or other goals to do.

How do you even celebrate?

Here’s what I did with my practical first birthday tips for Avis.


November 2015

It used to be just a year ago when my little girl was wearing her red Santa hat. She was a month old.

Now she is one and she likes riding cars.

Infancy seemed to have happened too swiftly, and all I was left with were lessons I promised to write – like this one time where my daughter had no invited guests on her birthday.

Mhmm.

I didn’t have a grand party for Avis like any mother would on her child’s first year.

Partly because I barely had enough preparations and frankly, I was slipping in and out of motivation. I was also traveling island to island in the early part of 2015.

As much as that sounded like I didn’t value her special day, I have already thought of it long before she was born: No big party for my baby. Even if she was my first.

“But how did you make her first birthday memorable if she had no party?”


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1. Keep it stress-free

Labor & giving birth were already tough, and so did juggling my ventures. I was sure throwing a kid’s party amidst the first year chaos wouldn’t sit well.

If you’re a starting entrepreneur, creative or someone who has an innate need to accomplish something big the same year you became a parent, you might want to skip throwing your baby’s first birthday party — or you know, just don’t hold one.

You will be able to save yourself from unnecessary pressure and expenses. Plus, you wouldn’t be okay with it if you have a 6am alarm ticking or a deadline the next day, right?

If you’re not yet convinced, here are some points why you might (especially if you’re planning to DIY):

  • Money is better off saved for other things (education, insurance, emergency funds, savings)
  • Less clutter to clean up after
  • No awkward situations of introductions & small talks (a plus for introverts!)
  • No weird pregnancy, labor or childbirth questions from people (like hello, does it really matter if I’m natural or a C-section?)
  • No unnecessary mishaps with vendors or suppliers
  • You get to rest sooner than you would have if you had that party
  • Your family will be your only guests; a good opportunity to catch up and be closer

2. Budget realistically

Since you’re pressed for time, it would be unwise to spend a hefty amount on cupcakes and theme decorations on a whim. With our small celebration, there were only expenses on gas, food for 7 and an entrance fee to a playhouse.

3. Be quick but still unique

Time limit can promote creativity.

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Avis enjoying her car at Dave’s Funhouse District Dasmarinas

In a society where it’s common to throw lavish and (gasp!) Frozen-themed parties, I stand with my thoughts on practicality over social expectations.

What are the alternatives to having a party? Are there any fun activities you can do instead?

Here are some ideas:

SEE MORE: Parenting: Kid’s Parties (Pinterest board)

In a society where it’s common to throw lavish and (gasp!) Frozen-themed birthday parties, I stand with my thoughts on practicality over social expectations.

I mean there’s nothing wrong with celebrating (there’s already enough Elsa’s and Anna’s going on, it’s about time to Let It Go), but I want to try new and pragmatic ideas on shaping my kid’s childhood.

I keep asking myself, “What’s more to this motherhood thing? How can I innovate?”

I keep asking myself,

“What’s more to this motherhood thing? How can I innovate?”

Even before she came, I knew I would raise my daughter differently, to set her foundations very early. I wanted to try alternative methods of rearing far from the orthodox. I’m not the one to follow the status quo anyway.

Oh and truth be told, there was little time to even copy those kiddie party ideas I saved to my secret Pinterest board.

4. Give the gift of core values

This is an opportunity to practice and learn. Your baby might not remember it but when you show him memories of his birthday, it will be a start of giving him a sense of pride and accomplishment.

For Avis, I chose to honor two values close to my heart: simplicity and the gift of learning.

The weekend before her birthday, I was invited over at Monster Art Philippines. I thought this would be cool to get the party started.

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Minus the party, I was more connected to my child. Our day at Monster Art felt that I gave us a better experience to look back to despite of her naivety. I liked that it was educational and we have an artwork we did together.

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5. Have it small

In attendance, Avis had the most important people she truly recognizes at one – and that’s our family.

(Sorry friends and relatives, I have a better makeup for this later on, trust me)

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Christmas decoration at SM Dasmarinas

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It was also a practical choice. I don’t think my little girl would have enjoyed a larger company anyway.

According to BabyCentre UK, this is the stage where babies are very attached to you. One-year-olds tend to have stranger anxiety so the most ideal thing is to have an intimate celebration. It’s a more relaxing option because they are known to be overwhelmed by crowds and different noises.

6. Focus more on moments, not materials

After we spent the morning making sand art, we had our lunch at French Baker at SM Dasmariñas. My family frequents this branch for their good ambiance & service so we all agreed to settle down here. That day was filled with delicious meals and funny conversations, as the smell of freshly baked bread wafted around our table.

It was pure bliss.

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More often than not, new parents are pressured into throwing their first baby an awesome theme party that could wow all its guests. Mostly because it speaks about what kind of parent they are.

But let me tell you though: you’re not being a bad parent if you decide not to throw a party. For those who do, that’s good. But don’t forget to re-assess if the choice of having one does not hurt your finances and party-planning spirit in the future.

Babies also forget their first birthday (seriously do you even remember yours?), so a grand themed celebration with buntings and custom-made birthday cupcakes isn’t a sound choice when your funds are limited or allocated for another priority. Your baby won’t even get to appreciate the party games or how many gifts he was given that day.

7. Experience new things or things you’ve missed

 

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Farron Café at Lower Ground, SM Dasmarinas

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2015 was a non-caffeine year for me due to breastfeeding. So when my sister insisted we try Farron Café after lunch for her mocha frappé craving, I caved in. I missed our new café hunting and coffee sampling, how was I to say no?

It was a 150 PHP ($3.19) well spent for two iced coffees and a sisterly bonding. 🙂

8. Let your kid truly enjoy his birthday

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A few days later, I took Avis to try Dave’s Funhouse. It was a lucky day. We got there and there weren’t a lot of kids. I let her play, walk and crawl as much as she could. Soon as her tiny feet stepped on the soft mats, she had this blazing energy and trailed off!

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You could do the same.

Have your child participate at age-appropriate activities or choose interactive play-pretend funhouses like Dave’s and let them be themselves. Their playfulness as a baby is something that will be gone soon. 

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Cherish it and join them. Become a kid again.

9. Quality over quantity

It was a week well-spent. We probably had two to three variations of how Avis had her birthday, but in totality we did what mattered to her and to me.

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Have more moments with your bub and take a lot of photos.

Celebrating your baby’s birthday isn’t so much about the quantity that makes up our parental character, but the quality of moments that we provide. Sometimes we tend to think of the bigger picture that we forget these little moments in-between. Take a breather, and enjoy them.

In the future, you’ll be glad you followed these practical first birthday tips.

Happy birthday to your little one!

Do you have other practical first birthday tips? How did you make your child’s first birthday special despite being busy?

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31 thoughts on “9 Practical First Birthday Tips For Busy Parents

  1. […] my other post on why we had no birthday party for Avis Julia, I was so eager to blog ... earthloveskin.com/daves-funhouse-district-dasmarinas
  2. Mywondermom Reply

    Thanks for the tips. I’ll keep this in mind as I my little one’s birthday will be in May. Excited to plan out something for her. 🙂

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    1. Iris Buenconsejo Reply

      Hi Ellona! Thanks for dropping by! Is your little girl turning one too? The activities I listed are very doable! 🙂 Happy birthday to her in advance!

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  3. joy mendiola Reply

    Such a practical mommy. I salute you! The most important thing is my time ka kay pweety Avis. May big party nga pero pa-impress lang sa mga kakilala, hehehehe.

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    1. Iris Buenconsejo Reply

      Aww, thank you Joy! That means a lot! ❤️‍

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  4. Michelle Solee (@michisolee) Reply

    There are different views when it comes to celebrating birthdays. We do celebrate our son’s birthday but it depends on our time, budget and wants. My son celebrated his first birthday in fastfood, para stress free, nagreserve, umattend at nagbayad lang ko. 🙂

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    1. Iris Buenconsejo Reply

      Hi Michelle, thanks for dropping by the blog!

      Yes it does depend on the parents and their considerations, but according to most experts, one year olds are not highly recommended to have a big party with so many going on (aka programme of events), they’re easily startled with sounds and have stranger anxiety even with relatives (again, depends on the babies but majority do have this) and are just adjusting to their new life on earth.

      This article is specifically geared for busy working parents & business entrepreneurs who still want to have a very unique moment despite their conflict of schedule and/or lack of funds, but it’s nice that your son had his birthday in fastfood if he enjoyed it. I just wouldn’t support that because it’s very common in Filipino tradition. Still, thank you for taking time to comment. 🙂

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  5. Charley's Mommy Reply

    I love this post, Mommy. I can truly relate. Although we had a simple celebration for Baby Charley’s 1st bday last December, it was a small and intimate gathering of the people we truly love. 🙂

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    1. Iris Buenconsejo Reply

      Hi Phoebe! Great to hear from you! And happy birthday to Charley! Magkasunod lang sila ni Avis! Holiday babies! Thanks for dropping by! ❤️‍ Hope we meet sometime and maybe have our little girls do a playdate!

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  6. MommyPehpot Reply

    Great tips you have here! Pag busy talaga ang parents, better to use the free time with the baby instead of planning a party 🙂

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    1. Iris Buenconsejo Reply

      Hi Pehpot, thanks for dropping by! Yes it’s best for working moms and business moms. Glad you enjoyed this post!

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  7. May De Jesus-Palacpac Reply

    I’ve already mastered number one. Much as I like doing DIY from time to time, matrabaho masyado. Plus we want to teach our kids also to enjoy their special days with family and just really close friends.

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    1. Iris Buenconsejo Reply

      Exactly May! I’m glad you already did number one! Great job!

      It’s difficult sometimes cause a lot of people from our network really expect that big themed party and others feel bad if they weren’t invited. I did get some odd reactions, pero at least diba when our kids are older it won’t be hard for us to discipline them and limit them from being spoiled with material things. ❤️‍ The party is for our kids and not them anyway.

      Your DIY comment made me laugh! All my Pinterest party pins went down the drain! They’re so pretty but so time-consuming indeed!

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  8. msbolin Reply

    Little Avis is so cute. When we had our little munchkin’s binyag a month ago, it wasn’t a grand one but rather too intimate for close friends only. Our friends told us it was such a nice gathering– nothing pretentious or fancy, just pure happiness.

    Oh, happy birthday to the little cute girl.

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    1. Iris Buenconsejo Reply

      Thank you Berlin! ❤️‍ And I love your name!!! It’s so nice to know mommies are practicing simpler ways to celebrate. Thank you for your comment!

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      1. msbolin Reply

        You are welcome. And thank you as well for liking my name. Ihihi.

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  9. nanaystrip Reply

    I remembered my son’s first birthday party. DIY but still stressful ang preparations. It was a celebration for the whole family who supported us during my difficult pregnancy and long wait to have a baby. After that party, we only celebrate his birthday at home with his closest cousins and relatives. This year, I’m thinking of an out of town trip or kahit sa metro lang basta maeenjoy niya. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Happy birthday to your little girl!

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    1. Iris Buenconsejo Reply

      Thank you! And truly, that’s one reason I avoided to do the DIY party cause I just had her last 2014. There’s always a chance to do better parties when they’re older! The best gift we could really give is that bonding, indeed. Hope you and your son enjoy better days! Thank you for being here! 🙂

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  10. Louise Antonette Fandino-Santos Reply

    Hi Iris, your baby Avis looked like she truly enjoyed herself on her special day. I agree on all your points. I’m a practical mom myself and for me what’s important is the joy the birthday girl feels than impressing others with how grand the celebration is. Kudos to you love! 🙂 – Louise, mommypracticality

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    1. Iris Buenconsejo Reply

      Louise! ❤️‍ Practical moms, represent! I feel good knowing another mommy shares the same ideals. Hope to meet you soon in our MBP gatherings! Thank you for dropping by!

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  11. Maan Laxa Reply

    I love these ideas Iris. I should’ve read this before my son turned 1 3 years ago. I went out of my way to prepare a party for his first birthday, but guess what, he didn’t enjoy it. I felt guilty because I barely spent time with him as I had to entertain the guests. That was a big lesson for me!

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    1. Iris Buenconsejo Reply

      Hi Maan!

      *hug* First of all thank you for being here. And don’t worry, I’m sure when he’s much older he’ll be able to appreciate your parties na! That or pwede mo din siya i-guilt trip by saying “look how mommy prepared all these for you when you were one!” haha. Just kidding, but you went out of your way to throw him a special party diba! The thought counted 🙂 One year olds lang kasi are not used to the crowd by this age. Sadly parties din talaga are so time consuming (unless you outsource to a planner but budget-wise it’s not ideal if you’re frugal) so I don’t recommend it for first birthdays for children of starting entrepreneurs or people who have busy schedules.

      I’m glad you loved the article!

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  12. sarah tirona Reply

    i agree! i dont think they’ll even remember anyway, esp at this young age. lalo na those mascot parties – they just freak them out. hahaha

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    1. Iris Buenconsejo Reply

      Sarah! ❤️‍ Your last line made me laugh! Oh god. Yes, the mascots. 😐 I’m not a fan of clowns either! Thanks for dropping by!

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  13. Denice Reply

    I totally agree with you. Nowadays people usually spend on lavish 1st birthday parties. Although that may be their thing I too focused more on a simpler get together. We only had a party at McDo which is cheaper than most with only a few people.

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  14. Jackie Park Reply

    I love the idea of celebrating your child’s birthday in different ways but all doing what you and she love to do. Her photos are of pure joy, hindi yung pinilit lang for the camera but yung masaya naman kasi talaga sya 🙂

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    1. Iris Buenconsejo Reply

      Yes, I ended up having about 70 shots because she is so malikot! Thanks for dropping by Jackie!

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  15. mhaan.a-ds Reply

    My son just turned 1 this month and his birthday party was a blast! I might consider these tips for his 2nd birthday. Thanks for sharing sis!

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    1. Iris Buenconsejo Reply

      Glad you liked this article, Mhaan! And it was nice to meet you at Asia Women’s Summit 2016 too! ❤️‍ Looking forward to that 2nd birthday post!

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  16. Mommy Anna Reply

    For my Little Kulit first birthday party we celebrated in Jollibee para hindi masyado stress, next birthday if what he likes and birthday wish yun nasusunod. Important is he is with the whole family

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  17. Melisa Sanchez Reply

    Yeah first birthday is very stressful and I want my Zd’s 2nd birthday more enjoyable for him. At ayaw ko na gumastos ng malaki hahaha! as long as nag eenjoy sya sa birthday nya. I will consider this tips for my tod 2nd birthday this coming March.

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