To my friends and family who might frown upon reading this… this is not for you. This is for the lives that are about to be reaped if the stigma of mental health continues. This is me doing my part for the world.
Knowing how to set goals is important in getting what you want and succeeding in life, especially in entrepreneurship and self development – for example, learning a skill or building your own business.
However, not many people can do goal setting right for them. Some know how to set goals but don’t seem to find the result they want right away. This is because the goal setting methods that are being used don’t apply universally.
This one may be a cliché but the first thing I do when I’m exhausted is enjoy some visual entertainment. I go on an adventure with a movie like The Secret Life of Walter Mitty, be swept away by romance like City of Angels, Little Manhattan or Chasing Liberty, or ride on the thriller train with Stranger Things and Lord of The Rings.
Binge for 3 days to a week if your body is really needing a wind down. Listen to it and it will tell you how much time you need.
After that, the negativity you’re feeling is out of your system.
It’s a decent purge, I tell ya.
2. Catch up on what you saved
Saving too many bookmarks full of blog posts, articles and videos that you thought you’ll ever watch but never got around to? Me too.
Since I use Pomello, a little Pomodoro timer when I’m working, the pockets of 5-10 minute breaks are then my chance to catch up on some of them.
You can do this too and set aside a minimal of 20-30 minutes. And if you’re ever more vacant than that, go for an hour or three.
3. See the sun and feel the outdoors
So much immersion plugged all day to the internet can wear you down. Break the cycle for a bit by enjoying the outdoors and the sunshine.
You’d be surprised at what 20 minutes of walking or playing outside can do to your mood.
As a mama, this part is inserted in my weekly routine when Avis insists on going outside to the clubhouse grounds. It’s really hard to say no to that kid you know? Especially if she’s been cooped up and busy with Youtube or indoor playing for days. Yikes.
If you’re totally busy like my daughter, you could maybe get the chance by walking when you’re doing your daily commute instead of conveniently riding to a near destination.
Another idea is to bike your way around if you have one. It’s effortless, laid back but nonetheless a good exercise.
Or ya know, just put the damn smartphone and go out in your yard or the curb of your street! Stand there and breathe the air, smell the earth and feel the sun. ☀️🌱🍃
4. Do short minute exercises
Feeling sluggish lately?
It’s usually because of lack of exercise, just ask my friend Coach Sofia.
Personally I like High Intensity Interval Training (HIIT) and plyometrics for 10-20 minutes each round. It challenges my body to rely on weight and intensity to work out my muscles especially my legs and core.
Just cause you’re working or you’re busy with a project or a client doesn’t mean you can ignore your social needs.
Check your social calendar to see if you have upcoming events.
Hmm. Probably none? I hear you.
Use this time to catch up with friends and relatives. Like they say, “No man is an island”.
Each week you can rotate with different friends, sorting them by proximity or how close their location is.
Budget constraints or don’t feel like going out? No problem.
Allot one day to a particular friend you’ve been dying to catch up all year long and do just that. Choose from Facebook, Viber, Snapchat, Hangouts or Twitter. Even Instagram nowadays is picking up their game on messaging. But yo one word of advice, phone calls and video calls are so much better than typing.
6. Write your to-do’s for the upcoming day or week
I know this might sound counter-intuitive, but trust me, there’s nothing like a freed up schedule.
Another free service I use is Trello. It’s like a virtual corkboard where you can organize your tasks. They have apps for the web, the iPhone, iPad, and Android models too so you can bring it anywhere you go.
For now these are my top two, but I promise to write an ultimate list of productivity and management apps and software I use!
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7. Unplug and meditate
Go on a technology detox and shut off your interaction from any gadget during your day off. It’s good for the soul while it lets you reflect on your overall being.
I do yoga and pilates on my spare time, and on days where I play with my daughter or I feel down, I refrain from checking my social media.
It’s hard to keep up when you’re back but hey it’s worth it.
No confusing notifications and headaches for a while!
8. Attend an event
Empty days like the weekends can be repetitive. Shake it up for a change by participating in a local event like a conference, a meetup or a bazaar.
Isn’t there something magical and romantic in it, don’t you think? While your romantic relationship may or may not exist, it’s still very important to nurture the one with ourselves.
💡 Here are some ideas:
Set up a cozy fine shrine for you, complete with your vision board, dreams and cut out clippings for your future better self.
Treat yourself to a nice hearty homemade meal – candlelights recommended.
Go to a place where you can be quiet and alone with your soul, like a park or a graveyard (yep! It’s not that spooky in my opinion! Famous writers do it!)
Buy flowers and address it to yourself, or pick some from the local flower shop. You can also buy a potted plant and grow it on your own.
10. Write yourself a letter
When you’re not having your best week, writing yourself a letter can be therapeutic.
There are 3 forms for this:
Letter of forgiveness. Forgive yourself for feeling guilty and down. There are best days and worst ones, and from my experience, you just have to roll with life to thrive and survive. Forgive yourself for working too hard or too little, because that’s okay. Your days will vary and know that the only pressure you feel is from you.
Letter of appreciation. Gratitude, they say, is the best medicine to a really bad day. Thank yourself for who you are, what you’re capable of, and how far you’ve come can uplift you.
Letter to your future self. Time capsule, anyone? I was watching Peppa Pig with my two-year-old daughter and in one episode they decide to make a time capsule. It’s a really neat idea to have something from the past uncovered in the future. My best bet is you write something that you’d want to read later on. It could be like a dialogue or a discussion of your goals and see years from now if it will happen. Now, that’s magic folks!
11. Join a community
It’s a great feeling to belong somewhere. Whether it be online or offline, finding a group where you share common interests is fun, engaging and enlightening.
A sense of belonging is one of the cornerstones in achieving your greater self.
Remember Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs?
Yep. That one.
Find one of the strongest pursuits in your field of interests (say, fitness, blogging or cosmetics) and search a community for it. Chances are, there’s already an existing one waiting to be found.
Bake cookies and send them in bags around your neighborhood
Thank the regular blue collar people who come by your house like the newspaper guy, the post man, the street vendor or even the security guard at your favorite establishments and tell them you’re grateful for their service
Send an e-card randomly to a friend
Put together a playlist
And if you’re still feeling a little low and can’t get over the hump, here are 5 energizing habits you can DEFINITELY do any day:
Brush your teeth.
It sounds mundane but there’s this wonder of having clean teeth and minty breath to rejuvenate you!
When I’m demotivated, it’s surprising how I break the funk once I brush my teeth. Turns out, I’m just annoyed by not having clean teeth. Maybe this’ll work for you too! 🙂
Take a bath.
Cold baths are for when you need a jolt and warm baths are for lazy, long sluggish days.
Choosing the right kind of bath is like a make or break. Because hey, if you’re feeling lazy and you so unknowingly jump into cold shower… guess what? It’ll put your mood off even more. It’s like drinking black coffee when you’re really thirsty.You’re not getting what your body needs.
Rather, take a warm bath to soothe your senses, open up your pores and enjoy a relaxing and healing magic of water.
On the other hand, don’t get a warm bath when you need to hurry!
Got it? Good.
Successful and goal-oriented people surround themselves with inspiration.
It could be people or things, places or quotes you find on BrainyQuotes (don’t you just loooove the many quotes there?!).I, myself, use a Chrome extension called Momentum to get my day started. It’s my substitute for coffee (I quit 10 months ago) and it gives me a glimpse of the time, an inspirational quote, my to-do’s, the weather and my favorite bookmarks. It’s become my essential for the day.
And no, this isn’t a sponsored post mwahaha. I wish! But Momentum is cool as a polar bear that I would absolutely suggest having on your Chrome browser. Sorry Safari and Microsoft Edge users. They’re not available for you yet.
You can inspire yourself too, by talking to a living inspiration. Have you always wanted to chat with that artist or maker you admire?
Go ahead and message them!
You never know, they might just reply! It’ll definitely make your day.
And while you’re at it, thank them for their talent and go ask them useful questions like what do they do when they’re down, how do they find inspiration in what they do and why they do it.
Have a planner.
I’ve heard of people who are not much of planners and all I can say is, even if you’re one of the crowd, there’s always room for a little planning.
Life just calls for it if you haven’t noticed.If you don’t like the idea of dotting your I’s and crossing your T’s then think of it as a rough preparation.Planning makes your thoughts tangible, and that’s what makes it so powerful to help you get over the slump.
I recommend one with a monthly/yearly calendar and ample spaces to write appointments as well as blank spaces for your mini and macro goals.
A perfect example would be my GYFS workbook – did I mention it’s only 5 pages?
You’ll love it once you get it!
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Laugh and get a hug.
Watch a comedy movie – I recommend anything Jennifer Aniston, Adam Sandler and Jason Segel.
Crack a joke and chuckle at yourself for being corny.Get a hug from someone you love, or even a friendly stranger. Yes, your pets count too!Because it’s true, laughter and hugs are the best medicine.
There you go! I hope these tips sincerely help you.
Let me know what worked and what didn’t in the comments below. I would love to hear your feedback!
Need help? Want to start goal-setting or figuring out your life path but don’t know how? Contact me here and I’ll respond to you as fast as I can. 🙂
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Kendall Jenner quits social media, but she has a point.
Not that it’s a shocking news to the world (actually it has, with CNN covering it ‘yo). If it was any other 21-year-old, it would have been watered down by the sidelines, but Kendall isn’t just any 21-year-old.
The famous younger Kardashian sister has recently flooded the news because of her sudden social media break. She has deleted her Instagram and have deleted her Twitter app from her phone.
The age of apps and instant messaging
It’s funny how in the old movies, our present was depicted as a future with robots and chrome-laden city (cue Spongebob episode). Yet even though that has not come fully yet, our generation has been taken over by technology. Startups popping left and right, apps being made into business, GPS to track our location… the endless buzz and flood of it all hangs by the thread of a pro or a con.
Kendall Jenner quits social media. Would you?
For someone who’s thinking of doing a “social media detox” I would suggest not to dive head deep into the abyss. You may relapse and regret it later, checking all your thousands of emails in your inbox. Yikes.
So how would you exactly approach the situation?
Take a break for a day and see how it goes.
After Kendall Jenner quits social media, she says it has only been 2 days but the world is going crazy over this rather mundane event. What more if it went on for more than a month? Would there be a grave dedicated to her now deceased Instagram account?
Social media detox can save your time and your life
I can’t recall how many times I’ve missed family moments simply because I was busy snapping away for my Instagram and Snapchat. I’m guilty of it too. But what I can tell you is that, make sure if you’re capturing something… make it count!
I have went from the social media overwhelm as well.
There were weeks when I didn’t feel like checking Facebook and any other social media at all.
When I got back on my feet and checked my inbox I had a hundred messages. Oh boy.
But the point is, taking a break can actually save you more time instead of having the fear of missing out (FOMO as what millenials call it).
Here are some pointers if you feel like going on a detox like how Kendall Jenner quits social media:
EASY: Try out detoxing from your phone and computer for a day or two. MEDIUM: Gradually move up to weeks. HARD: Until 14 days. Only check it if it’s important like urgent calls and emails.
If you cannot do the extreme “day challenge yet” you can start with 15-30 minute breaks, followed by an hour and then 3 hours.
Turn off your instant notifications.
Log out of your apps if you still want to retain them but don’t want to be notified.
Put your phone in silent(not vibrate) option. This way you won’t be tempted to check.
For the more temporary and better option: Turn off your WiFi.
Only add people you actually know and enjoy the company of.
Place your phone somewhere you may feel too tired to reach.
Or rather: Entrust your phone to another close human being and make a pact not to give it until you’re done with your detox or whatever it is that you’re concentrating on.
When is it best to do the social media detox?
Whenever you feel that looming sense of overwhelm, that’s when you know. But for a more intricate guideline here’s my guesstimate:
Weekends starting 7AM on Saturday to 11PM Sunday.
Family occasions take an hour or two break. Leave phone at your hotel room or accommodation.
During travels take a camera instead of your phone. Not only do you save your phone’s battery, but you’ll take better high def pictures as well.
Hikes explanatory right? Bringing a cellphone in the mountains may be necessary for survival but you’ll probably not get a decent reception.
Family meals oh this one’s a doozy. Many times I’ve seen people eat at restaurants while checking their phones. I used to be guilty about this, but I think here’s where the part of “bless us O Lord for the food we eat” comes in, because how can we bless our food properly if we’re Instagraming it before saying grace? At least say our graces first, amen?
Anyway, Kendall says this whole phase is a “detox” as it has taken over her life quite frankly. She says every morning and before bedtime, social media is her bff. But she might be back, just not soon enough.
See the full interview below.
Well, we can surely learn from that. Thanks Kendall.
It was dim. Bae and I decided to split the cab and go with Grab. We were both hungry so we walked back and forth looking for a good place to eat.
One of the nicest things that night was the guard telling us to go to this hidden food joint beside Royal Bellagio Hotel.
It was something called ‘Filling’. He whispered it like a hidden tip or something.
I actually thought he meant “feeling” or something (cause you get to eat to your heart’s content lol)
When we got there, it said “Filling Station” Bar & Diner. The lovely joint was tucked away at the bustling Burgos Street.
From an interior designer’s perspective, imagine my excitement just seeing the 70’s diner interior!
I LOVED everything about it!
Bae ordered a Mexican burger and I ordered an American pancake breakfast with sausage and bacon.
Not quite as healthy as I’d like but I decided it’s cheat day and I had no regrets. It reminded me of Seattle’s Coffee’s.
The pancakes and sausages were cooked to perfection. The best part was the thick and endless flow of syrup on my plate.
Days like this make me want to go urban exploring again. Or for the mere fact, let’s just say I miss backpacking a lot.
But motherhood also demands me, so I’m waiting till Avis is ready and we can both go on adventures.
3 pc pancakes, 2 sausage links and 2 strips of bacon
Strawberry slushie on ice
Filling Station Bar Cafe is conveniently located at Burgos St. Makati. The best part is that if you’re into hidden urban jewels, the convenience of this diner will suit you.
Getting around Burgos St. Makati isn’t a problem, you can take a cab, Uber or Grab from anywhere in Metro Manila or Makati and tell them to alight you at Royal Bellagio at Burgos St. The restaurant is located right beside Bellagio.
If you’re tight on the budget, you may take the Metro Railway Transit (MRT) and take off at Buendia Station. From there you can take a cab to Filling Station Bar Cafe.
But for the walk extremists, from the MRT Buendia Station it’s an 18 minute walk to Filling Station Bar Cafe.
We waited for a while with our orders, but given the quality of food I understand why it took longer.
There were several factors that affected the customer service, such as: waiting time upon arrival, number of customers, rush hour and number of orders taken per table.
For us, I think that it was top notch.
I didn’t have to ask for the syrup at all! It was freely given and the drinks were simultaneously served. All in all, I have no complaints with Filling Station Bar Cafe.
Considering Burgos Street Makati is a tourist flock capital, I understand the prices on the menu. The orders started at around PHP 300 to PHP 500. There were also group portions but I can’t remember the prices that well.
Oh yes, the quality! If I could give them more than 100% I would.
Filling Station Bar Cafe served me the best American breakfast since Seattle’s. The strawberry smoothie was also nice. I liked that they both have healthy options and (not so healthy) other variety.
I think I covered this above but yeah. The concept.
Man, I can’t reiterate how much I loved the concept of this hidden food joint! From Elvis replicas to James Dean on the walls, the vibe of this diner took my heart away. I’m not a fan of the black and white tiles generally but hey, it’s a diner so I’ll give it a break.
You won’t even know the diner exists unless you know.
That’s how hidden it is, especially at night which, I do recommend by the way for the hours of your visit. The lights at Burgos Street Makati will wow you and when you add this diner to your must-visit, damn.
Presentation-wise Filling Station Bar Cafe served me well decent food. There weren’t any complaints at all. The butter on my pancake was cute, I even had a little American flag over it!
Hmm. This one’s so hard to pick! Aarrrgh. Okay okay. I guess it’s American Breakfast and the concept. You can feel right at home but at a totally different place here.
When you visit Makati City Philippines, put Filling Station Bar Cafe in your travel itinerary, okay?
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And while, I enjoy them in the morning, I think midnight French toasts are the best.
If you’re living alone and forgot to buy sugar, boy, this will also make you drool. I didn’t think it was even better without the sugar or honey ? but it worked!
I used powdered chocolate because I went grocery shopping at Shopwise Alabang and forgot the damn sugar.
Good thing I did.
Just drop the pancakes and syrup for now and indulge in these marvelous triangles. They’re good post workout snacks and midnight fillers when you’re working all night on a project too. Especially when you’re still waiting for McDonald’s delivery to order your breakfast. ?
Enjoy making these and if you have your own French toast recipe, care to share them in the comments too!
I wanna know what toppings you love ?????? or how your French toast recipe is.
Midnight French Toast Recipe
Already love French toasts? Make them at midnight. They're the best.
Be part of the first Health and Wellness Fair this October!
Design Your Health is a 2-day holistic health and wellness fair that aims to promote holistically healthy lifestyle.
It showcases the importance of your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual activities that affect the overall design of your health and well-being.
Aimed towards entrepreneurial moms, young professionals, and health-conscious consumers, Design Your Health proposes a unique approach to wellness. Attendees and participants will be treated to a healthy mixture of stores, workshops, clinics, and talks that introduce and showcase a holistically healthy lifestyle.
It’s happening this October 8 and 9, 2016 at the Mandala Park, Shaw Boulevard, Mandaluyong City.
The event will feature 50 bazaar exhibitors: workshops on arts, fitness and entrepreneurship; and talks by experts on health and wellness.
Click on below links to see what workshop/ class that suits your needs and preferences best:
Entrance Fee to the Expo: 150php (FREE if you register to at least 1 of the workshops)
Design Your Health is brought to you by Unilab Foundation. All proceeds of the fair will go fund the health programs of Unilab Foundation particularly on kids’ nutrition, therapeutic and developmental play for children, and employment of persons with disabilities.
Contact: Tiffany Vargas 09985603398
for inquiries or sponsorship.
I highly recommend on going. I’m stoked to see what’s in store for us tomorrow. Remember, wellness is overall. It starts within you, through you and by you.