How To Find Your Tribe, Wellness And Empowerment

Hi dreamers! Remember when I posted about Design Your Health 3 weeks ago? This time I’m blogging about the lessons I got there: How to find your tribe, wellness and empowerment.

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I made it there on a girlfriend date with Bae Milanes of The Bae Blogs. Inviting her was something I kept doing recently – we both love self-love and empowerment plus blogging so I thought, “hey, why not?”

 

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How To Find Your Tribe

What I learned that day was that, it’s so important to have someone – anyone – who you can share your passion with.

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The beliefs and values you hold are essential to your growth, and you wouldn’t want to be kept rejected or devalued in any way thus the importance of having your own tribe like ours.

But where do I start finding similar people?

Knowing how to find your tribe starts by attending events that are aligned to what and who you are.

  • So if you’re a blogger, attend blogger events.
  • If you’re into fitness, find running groups or join Zumba sessions.
  • If you’re tight on the wallet, malls and parks are now offering free fitness bootcamps and Zumba dances. 🙂
  • However, for those of you who are more of introverts, there are many resources you can use – community forums, Facebook groups, the comment section of your favorite online website and more.

Great ideas! But what do I say?

Most of the time, this is what people ask me about. My friends always say, “I wish I was more like you Iris. You always seem to know what to say.”

Little did they know there’s a secret to this:

Just take initiative and say hi.

Once you learn how to find your tribe, the next step is making the first move. Not everybody warms up with first encounters so make sure that your new friend is comfortable with you whenever possible.

Usually for me, I ask what music or hobby they like or what’s going on at the moment and then I find the point where we can both intersect on those things.

Oooh. I get it now somehow. How can I make sure I’m with the right tribe?

Believe it or not, there’s not much to do once you know how to find your tribe except for putting yourself out there.

Here’s my social equation:
Good intentions + good actions = good results

Okay. But how can I make sure to stay friends with them?

How to stay friends with them in the long run? Simple.

1. Listen and be empathic.
2. Keep in touch every now and then.

If you can sense they’re having a bad day, take part but don’t let yourself be absorbed in the negativity.

(I also have a bad habit of being a sponge in other people’s damp moods, don’t worry. You’re not alone)

Also, once you’ve had your newfound friend… don’t forget to stay in touch.

You can do this by chatting up with them or following up on social media or through SMS or phone call, whichever suits both of you best.

Facebook actually has a way to see who you’ve added recently.

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Once you’ve made the “follow-up”, make your second meeting memorable. Introduce him or her to a new place or food, or wind down with something you both enjoy like seeing movies or drinking tea.

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On Dealing With Friendships & Negativity

Let them know you care by telling them what a good friend will always say, “tomorrow is another day.”

You don’t have to sulk with them, a good pat on the back or a hug is enough. Or sometimes even not saying something can be beneficial. A lot of troubled people just want a shoulder.

My papa always says, “each day is a new beginning”.

“Each day is a new beginning.”

Now that I have gotten better with my emotions, I realize how right he is on this wisdom.

Taking it one day at a time gives you only the present view. Enjoy your time with your new friend and think of some ways you can lighten up their load.

Maybe they’re having a bad day at work? Invite them to brunch or dinner.

Tired and exhausted? Try out spas and massages.

Is your new friend bored with his or her day to day activities? Maybe you can try something new like a local place or a new urban adventure.

Got into an office drama? Talk it out or have a marathon and eat Ben & Jerry’s. (Warning: comes in calories! Or for better health solution, take sugar free ice cream! Or make nice creams like these!)


Looking Out For Your Overall Wellness

That day, it was late and raining. I woke up past noon and scurried off only to be welcomed by the rain and traffic along EDSA Boulevard.

When I got to the venue, I had to find and confirm us in the blogger list (thanks to my friend Veni for the VIP pass!). Bae and I explored Mandaluyong City through its organic Design Your Health fair.

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Mandala Park, Mandaluyong City
Bae Milanes of TheBaeBlogs.com
Bae of TheBaeBlogs.com

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The Unilab team

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Like I said in this post, Design Your Health 2016 celebrates overall wellness – from physical, emotional, spiritual and mental health – everything correlates to one another.

It’s definitely one of the first of its kind in October this year.

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This event advocated on keeping all of the aspects in your health intact.

Knowing which parts of your health need improvement is a sign of your growth. You don’t have to be physically sick to start improving your life now. You can take it bit by bit and start with whatever you need.

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Begin with small pledges like these and post it on your wall. You can also stick them on your fridge — anywhere possible so you see them often.

Everything in the fair was so delectable! There were vegan burgers, organic nuggets, fruit popsicles, a succulent stand, handmade waxed leather bags and more.

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Planted PH’s food stall
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Vegan burgers

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#HaveANiceDayMNL 🙂
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Very interesting feat of Ice Pops Manila

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Vegan chocolate chip cookies 🍪

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Bae shelling out her moolah 😛 We bought a container of those scrumptious cookies from Healthy Nuggets for 90 PHP.
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My friend Veni and I

It was great albeit the short swing we had to do because Bae was trying to pull me into this women empowerment event by Woman Create at Commune Makati.


On Empowering Yourself

We got to Commune quite late after our dinner and the event was already starting. It was hot and the second floor of another hidden food joint  was jam-packed. Commune was concealed in two big wooden planks for its doors.

We actually thought we were lost.

When we got there, we enlisted as performers but because Bae bailed out early, I had to as well. I was gonna perform a poetry called Someday You Will Be Great.

But while we were there… there were a few good points made by the prior performers that night.

  1. Love yourself first and foremost
  2. Honor your body and know your value
  3. If you’re not happy with something, change it
  4. Never settle for what’s less than you think you deserve
  5. Fight for your freedom to choose what you want

What I really liked was Plump Philippine magazine twins’ performance about body positivity and value. They both looked fabulous and no one would think they had issues with their body.

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That night I took a Grab ride home and contemplated of what transpired that day. I felt it was a day well-spent knowing that I’ve invested in myself.

I would recommend to anyone to do the same.

Not only that, but I’ve found a new favorite hidden food joint too!!!

So, here is your homework, dreamer:

  1. What activities or opportunities you like wherein you could make friends?
  2. How will you invest in yourself?
  3. What’s your pledge for this month or year?

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30 thoughts on “How To Find Your Tribe, Wellness And Empowerment

  1. Macy Santos Reply

    “How will I invest in myself?” This question struck me the most. Now, you’ve got me thinking. Honestly, at my age I still feel I am a bit lost. It is embarrassing to say that in my 40s I haven’t really thought of ‘properly’ investing on myself. Now you are making me ponder on this thought- perhaps I need to think about this way harder and work on it this new year- now na kaya. Thanks.

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  2. Liezl Reply

    Awesome tips!

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  3. Berlin Reply

    Finding and being with your tribe is something I love to expound on. I recently met a friend through a friend and we instantly click. Perhaps because we dream of the same dream and hope for the same hope. We communicate a lot and check on each other’s progresss. I hope we accomplish our goal for this year. But more than that, I hope this friendship would be for keeps.

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  4. Cris Evert Lato Ruffolo Reply

    We all need this: a time to pause and reflect. The world is too noisy and loud and it is a luxury to find peace.

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  5. Lhourdes Mercadero Reply

    I learned a lot from reading this post .
    Thank you for the tips

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  6. nilyncartagena Reply

    What activities or opportunities you like wherein you could make friends? – As someone who wants to learn more about blogging, I’d love to be able to have more blogger friends whom I can talk to and exchange blogging ideas.

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  7. Nerisa Reply

    This seems like a nice event to go to. It encourages empowerment.

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  8. Pinknomenal Reply

    Thanks for the tips! I find that as I grow older, my list of friends trim down and I gravitate towards those that I communicate the most and share the same interests. I think it’s nice to take time to be calm and reflect on life to cleanse us from the chaos of the world today.

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  9. nocturnalmomtalks Reply

    I once belonged to an online community as an admin which was fun at first. Only to realize soon after that it stressed me out like hell and misunderstanding among the group happens everyday even over little things. To cut the story short, I left the group (I wish I did this sooner) and I’ve never been any happier. I was able to keep a few online friends and it’s better this way. Thanks for this post. I know I made the right decision 🙂

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  10. mamaspeaksagain Reply

    Finding friends is easy, but finding real ones is a challenge. I may not have much, but the ones I keep are the ones really worth keeping.

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    1. EINz Reply

      I also believe that having few who’s real was way better than having a lot of friends who can only stay during the good times.

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  11. momsterteacher Reply

    Very practical pieces of advice! It’s true–if you want to be with like-minded people, you’ll find them. Like in my case, I was the first married woman and mom in my circles of friends. I didn’t want to bore my friend with domestic stories, so I blogged. Later, I met other mommy bloggers. Online lang at first, then we would meet in events and meet-ups we ourselves organise.

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  12. Ayi Reply

    There are so many ways to enrich ourselves – and it’s more than just eating good food. Thanks for reminding us 🙂 Happy new year!

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  13. May De Jesus-Palacpac Reply

    I say the exact same thing to people who have a hard time meeting new people. I just tell them to just say hi first. I’m an introvert, but I do make the most of the events I go to. Life is too short for hangups, hehe.

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  14. Melisa Sanchez Reply

    when I start blogging I found new friends, new friends who helps me to improve my self, my blog and also a friends who’s always there to lean on. I love this ”Good intentions + good actions = good results”. This post is full of encouragement! Thanks

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  15. TweenselMom Reply

    So many healthy stuff in this event, and healthy ideas as well. I would have loved to join that event. Let me know if you know one similar this year. Thanks!

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  16. Cheanne Reply

    This is so helpful! Now that I think of it, I don’t really have a tribe tribe. The friends I’ve made from school have lost touch and the new ones I’ve made are just sort of acquaintances. Maybe I should work on it some more.

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  17. Liz Aquino Reply

    I used to love meeting new people and trying to merge different circles of friends together. Some of them worked, others didn’t. Now that I am a mom, I seldom do that now since I learned a few lessons from way back then. I only keep a handful of people close whom I really call my closest friends. The others could now be categorized as acquaintances. Guess we can’t keep everybody if we want to live healthy 🙂

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  18. Momma Mitch Reply

    You’re right. Lalo na for me who’s a WAHM, mas lumiit na ang circle of friends ko. I guess finding a tribe will be hard for me. Good thing, may Facebook na. I get to interact with some like-minded people through online world rin most of the time. Hey, you had an eventful day ah. Parang napa-contemplate tuloy ako when was the last time ba na lumabas ako ng bahay to attend such events. Haha

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  19. Maria Teresa Gregorio-Figuerres Reply

    What a productive way to spend the day! This year, I pledge to save, love myself more and live healthier.

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  20. Neri Ann Reply

    I like attending mom events because I get to meet a lot of moms who is also into the same passion as mine. I am super active in meeting new people but tend to slow down when I’ve become a mom. But its really easy now with the help of Facebook.

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  21. Teresa Gumap-as Dumadag Reply

    I agree with you that to find friends or to find your tribe, we need to be brave enough to step out and say hi. 🙂 We need to be open and reach out. Too bad, I wasn’t available to join this event last year. I hope I can join next time.

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  22. Mommy Queenelizabeth Reply

    I always believe that having a few but true friends is way better than having a lot of fake ones. This post is very inspiring. Thanks for sharing!

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  23. May Castillo Reply

    Great tips in empowering one’s self and relationship with others. I, for one, usually gets shy during events. Maybe I should try to be more friendly this year. Will take note of your pointers.

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  24. Claire Pajarillo Santiago Reply

    I learned so much, especially looking for your tribe but really I can hang out with people not similar to me and have fun with them.

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  25. Mommy Levy Reply

    I have a lot of tribe per areas of my life (well most of) and I’m happy I found them

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  26. Janice Reply

    Wow, such an awesome experience in investing in yourself. I believe that’s really, really important. It’s so easy to lose yourself if you’re so busy with a lot of things. I also believe in finding one’s tribe. Two years ago, I found a tribe of fellow planner addicts like me. It gave me such a great experience being with people who share the same passion. 🙂

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