Hi dreamers! Remember when I posted about Design Your Health 3 weeks ago? This time I’m blogging about the lessons I got there: How to find your tribe, wellness and empowerment.
I made it there on a girlfriend date with Bae Milanes of The Bae Blogs. Inviting her was something I kept doing recently – we both love self-love and empowerment plus blogging so I thought, “hey, why not?”
How To Find Your Tribe
What I learned that day was that, it’s so important to have someone – anyone – who you can share your passion with.
The beliefs and values you hold are essential to your growth, and you wouldn’t want to be kept rejected or devalued in any way thus the importance of having your own tribe like ours.
But where do I start finding similar people?
Knowing how to find your tribe starts by attending events that are aligned to what and who you are.
- So if you’re a blogger, attend blogger events.
- If you’re into fitness, find running groups or join Zumba sessions.
- If you’re tight on the wallet, malls and parks are now offering free fitness bootcamps and Zumba dances. 🙂
- However, for those of you who are more of introverts, there are many resources you can use – community forums, Facebook groups, the comment section of your favorite online website and more.
Great ideas! But what do I say?
Most of the time, this is what people ask me about. My friends always say, “I wish I was more like you Iris. You always seem to know what to say.”
Little did they know there’s a secret to this:
Just take initiative and say hi.
Once you learn how to find your tribe, the next step is making the first move. Not everybody warms up with first encounters so make sure that your new friend is comfortable with you whenever possible.
Usually for me, I ask what music or hobby they like or what’s going on at the moment and then I find the point where we can both intersect on those things.
Oooh. I get it now somehow. How can I make sure I’m with the right tribe?
Believe it or not, there’s not much to do once you know how to find your tribe except for putting yourself out there.
Here’s my social equation:
Good intentions + good actions = good results
Okay. But how can I make sure to stay friends with them?
How to stay friends with them in the long run? Simple.
1. Listen and be empathic.
2. Keep in touch every now and then.
If you can sense they’re having a bad day, take part but don’t let yourself be absorbed in the negativity.
(I also have a bad habit of being a sponge in other people’s damp moods, don’t worry. You’re not alone)
Also, once you’ve had your newfound friend… don’t forget to stay in touch.
You can do this by chatting up with them or following up on social media or through SMS or phone call, whichever suits both of you best.
Facebook actually has a way to see who you’ve added recently.
Once you’ve made the “follow-up”, make your second meeting memorable. Introduce him or her to a new place or food, or wind down with something you both enjoy like seeing movies or drinking tea.
On Dealing With Friendships & Negativity
Let them know you care by telling them what a good friend will always say, “tomorrow is another day.”
You don’t have to sulk with them, a good pat on the back or a hug is enough. Or sometimes even not saying something can be beneficial. A lot of troubled people just want a shoulder.
My papa always says, “each day is a new beginning”.
“Each day is a new beginning.”
Now that I have gotten better with my emotions, I realize how right he is on this wisdom.
Taking it one day at a time gives you only the present view. Enjoy your time with your new friend and think of some ways you can lighten up their load.
Maybe they’re having a bad day at work? Invite them to brunch or dinner.
Tired and exhausted? Try out spas and massages.
Is your new friend bored with his or her day to day activities? Maybe you can try something new like a local place or a new urban adventure.
Got into an office drama? Talk it out or have a marathon and eat Ben & Jerry’s. (Warning: comes in calories! Or for better health solution, take sugar free ice cream! Or make nice creams like these!)
Looking Out For Your Overall Wellness
That day, it was late and raining. I woke up past noon and scurried off only to be welcomed by the rain and traffic along EDSA Boulevard.
When I got to the venue, I had to find and confirm us in the blogger list (thanks to my friend Veni for the VIP pass!). Bae and I explored Mandaluyong City through its organic Design Your Health fair.
Like I said in this post, Design Your Health 2016 celebrates overall wellness – from physical, emotional, spiritual and mental health – everything correlates to one another.
It’s definitely one of the first of its kind in October this year.
This event advocated on keeping all of the aspects in your health intact.
Knowing which parts of your health need improvement is a sign of your growth. You don’t have to be physically sick to start improving your life now. You can take it bit by bit and start with whatever you need.
Begin with small pledges like these and post it on your wall. You can also stick them on your fridge — anywhere possible so you see them often.
Everything in the fair was so delectable! There were vegan burgers, organic nuggets, fruit popsicles, a succulent stand, handmade waxed leather bags and more.
It was great albeit the short swing we had to do because Bae was trying to pull me into this women empowerment event by Woman Create at Commune Makati.
On Empowering Yourself
We got to Commune quite late after our dinner and the event was already starting. It was hot and the second floor of another hidden food joint was jam-packed. Commune was concealed in two big wooden planks for its doors.
We actually thought we were lost.
When we got there, we enlisted as performers but because Bae bailed out early, I had to as well. I was gonna perform a poetry called Someday You Will Be Great.
But while we were there… there were a few good points made by the prior performers that night.
- Love yourself first and foremost
- Honor your body and know your value
- If you’re not happy with something, change it
- Never settle for what’s less than you think you deserve
- Fight for your freedom to choose what you want
What I really liked was Plump Philippine magazine twins’ performance about body positivity and value. They both looked fabulous and no one would think they had issues with their body.
That night I took a Grab ride home and contemplated of what transpired that day. I felt it was a day well-spent knowing that I’ve invested in myself.
I would recommend to anyone to do the same.
Not only that, but I’ve found a new favorite hidden food joint too!!!
So, here is your homework, dreamer:
- What activities or opportunities you like wherein you could make friends?
- How will you invest in yourself?
- What’s your pledge for this month or year?