Inspiration or Jealousy? Why You Shouldn’t Follow Your Icons

You’re following this person everywhere: on her social media, her website, maybe even her newsletter, and she’s great. She seems to have it all. Her Instagram feed is on point, her blog or website polished as a clean white ceramic floor, and you’re thinking…

“How the heck does she do it?”

 

Stop Looking At Their Social Media, It’s Not Helping You

There’s nothing wrong with stalking following your inspiration. It’s actually healthy, and I definitely recommend it (the #GYFSWorkbook advocates this on the first page) but as with all medical prescriptions, it has to be at the right dosage.

Why It Isn’t Healthy

Following someone around and knowing what’s up in their lives can take a looooot of your precious time. And successful people know that time is their most important asset.

Not only are you wasting your time scrolling through your feed and switching back and forth on platforms or absorbing the news on the grapevine from someone else, you’re not leading your life.

This is why you shouldn’t do it. You shouldn’t follow them.

You should be following you.

Don’t be a sheep in the herd, be the shepherd.

Lead your life to the direction you want to, and not create a lifestyle just because somebody else has it. It’s okay to be inspired, but don’t be an entire copycat.

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The Age of FOMO

Though if you’re still suffering from this constant checking because of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out), you’re not alone.

I do it too.

But realize this: fear is a deeper issue.

When I was introspecting there were two questions that popped up:

  1. Why do I fear on missing out? Is it because we want to live vicariously through other people when I don’t have anything valuable going on?
  2. Or is it because I don’t know what to do with my time?

Either way, don’t fear fear. Dig deep and it will always lead to something more that you may need to solve.

We’re all being told that we need to know our WHY when we want to pursue something; that we’re told to look for people who could inspire us.

But where does inspiration end to become jealousy?

It isn’t enough that we’re perpetually bombarded with different social media standards – to look a certain weight, to carry a certain lifestyle, to take photos of certain things… you know the drill.

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But in the process, we slowly lose our identity when we get sucked into this mundane cycle. We wake up in the morning and before we hit that cup of coffee (mine would probably be Nestle Milo because I don’t drink caffeine anymore – more on this later) we hustle — but not to work.

Instead we work our fingers to see how many likes or comments we’ve had, or if our “pegs” (as what Millenials call it) have posted something new.

This has slowly become the way of life for us.

Today though I’m going to give you a run through on how to curb jealousy into inspiration.


If you’re struggling with finding your greatness, self identity and confidence, you’ll want to cosy up in reading this.

Go get a cup of tea, coffee or hot chocolate and carve out a safe space to cuddle in.

This one’s for you, dreamer.


 

1. Discipline yourself when catching up

From the #GYFSWorkbook I recommend 15 minutes every day to go through the whole planner and about 5 minutes of that time to check up on your inspirations.

The ideal would be to pick 1-2 people for the day to inspire you so you’ll have plenty of time savoring and digesting their updates.

You can always catch up on the others on your list the following days anyway.

2. Realize that jealousy is not a bad thing

At first you might think this sounds like a trick but it isn’t. I’ve learned over the years and from reading countless personal development blogs that jealousy is not a negative thing IF you choose it to be otherwise.

It’s actually an indicator of your aspiration.

And if you let that simmer as a positive thought, you can form a plan on how to launch a better version of yourself by appreciating what you have and do and recognizing your weaknesses.

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3. Recognize that your feeling is valid

We envy certain aspects from people because we wish we have them or are experiencing them. And that’s normal. No human has never been envious.

We just have to recognize these feelings so that they will have less power on us. The key to this is letting go.

4. Practice gratitude & reaffirmation

When I was jealous of this certain girl because she seemed to have it all already… my mom told me a very wise advice: I didn’t know what I had.

My mother reaffirmed my worth because I keep forgetting it at times.

Sure, that girl might be living a glamorous life at a loft and enjoying more than a few cocktail nights but she doesn’t have the things that I do: a beautiful daughter, my multiple talents & skills, my out of this world humor, my local and international friends who I have bonded deeply, my knack for finding good music, and all my dreams and experiences that only I will ever, ever know.

5. Acknowledge and verbalize that there is only one YOU.

This is a good practice every time you face the mirror. I do this whenever I go for a bath because it is a relaxing and an unhurried time to reflect on myself.

You’ve seen yourself change over the years and only YOU know you. Don’t discount your worth.

Say these few words aloud and believe in them:

  • I am my own success
  • I am enough
  • Believe in my own dream
  • I am unique in my own way
  • Always choose what I love today
  • Life is not a competition
  • Find my own tribe
  • Remember my core values
  • Align me with my ideal self
  • Grow my soul & learn

These are just affirmation statements that help you practice confidence and grace with yourself.

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If you’ve still muddled whether or not it is inspiration or jealousy, turn to these interviews I’ve had with several people. I asked them to define inspiration versus jealousy and these are the insights I’ve got:

Inspiration is when you’re completely and constantly focused on your goals, see how far you’ve come in reaching those goals and believe that you can accomplish so much more in the years to come.

But jealousy is when you see the success of others and become frustrated because they are already achieving in certain aspects of life while you’re still learning about these.

It’s when you don’t see your goals as something beautiful, you see them as something weak because other people achieved it already. You tend to do more comparisons with other people than focus on yourself and the amazing person you could become.

Inspiration, then, is appreciating everything happening at the moment and recognize that a bright future is definitely ahead of you, while jealousy is looking at others’ current status and comparing it to your own and being frustrated that your future goals are already present in the life of others.Katrina Hughes Que, 20

I redirect my jealousy into creative pursuits to allow myself growth and a sense of purpose and fulfillment. Instead of wallowing in my own pool of self-pity and doubt, I use that jealousy to prove myself wrong – that I can and I will. So I do. And for many times, I have.Bae Milanes

Inspired and jealous? Being surrounded by successful friends from the filmmaking industry AND social enterprises.Selene
Being inspired means you’re being driven to be a better version of you because of the success of another.

Being jealous is focusing on the achievement of another but not moved to improve. Instead, even hoping for the other’s failures.Rey Baguio

I define inspiration by working positively and being happy with what I am doing by learning to the people whom I am inspired with. On the other hand, jealousy comes into play if there is a feeling of envy, negativity — the want, not a need, to be on top and lastly always thinking of working on an unworthy competition.Lao Lesangke of The Sili King, 28

 

Hope that was worth your read! If you need help in self-confidence, envy management and finding your greatness, post your burning questions below. I would love to hear from you.

PS: Don’t stay silent over there. I’ll see you in my next post.

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Why You Should Build Your Brand Through Video

Youtube, Vimeo, Vine, Instagram Story and Snapchat… any of these sound familiar? The big leagues of media have one thing in common: video.

Nowadays with more and more content being posted on the internet, it’s no wonder motion picture has a big impact on audience perception.

If you’re a brand, an entrepreneur, a freelancer, or simply just someone who wants to tell a story… here’s why you need to climb aboard this media train:

● Videos provide a 74% increase in visitors’ understanding of a product.
● 45.5% of Internet users view at least one video over the course of a month.
● An average user spends 16 minutes and 49 seconds watching online video ads every month
● 80% of users remember the videos they watch online
● 46% of users take action after viewing a video online
● Your website visitors are 64% more likely to buy a product after watching a video.
● When video is included in an email there’s a 2 – 3 times increase in Click through Rates (CTR)

Apart from that, building a brand through video allows you to tell more than words. Remember the saying, “a picture’s worth a thousand words”? Well let’s substitute that with video.

Vine is a great example of that adage. Maximizing the 6-second attention span of its audience, vine has been the avenue for entertainment where unknown entities get popular really fast.

Another is Snapchat. Prior to Facebook and Instagram allegedly mimicking its signature “story” feature, Snapchat has been the most popular social network among teens, according to a report by Mashable. And as of April 2017, Snapchat and Instagram are still the most popular social media platform.

This isn’t including the countless brands and personalities already using the media channels.

So where does your brand stand?

Take a piece of the pie now. Here’s how you can use video to your advantage:

  • Create a video to promote the behind the scenes of your business or brand
  • Promote social proof by getting your loyal customers’ in-person reviews
  • Show how awesome your company is and your culture by interviewing your employees
  • Make a living as a videographer capturing moments from pre-nuptials, pre-natal shoots to wedding and first milestones
  • Better your Youtube reach by creating more engaging and relevant content for your audience
  • Upgrade your skills as a basic marketer to a marketing maven with video content
  • Record gatherings and events across your community
  • Promote your organization’s advocacy through shareable video clips

And there are so much more!

Which is why, I’m fortunate to be able to attend Dennis Abad Aka “Shodensan’s” Building A Strong Brand Using Videos.

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I’ll be upfront and say I’m quite biased when I say this is a good workshop to go to. Shoden is actually one of my peeps in the freelance group I’m a member of. I’ve seen his tips and man, this dude provides value as much as he can.

Fortunately I’ll be able to meet him this Saturday. I can’t wait to blog about what I’ve learned after the workshop!

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What you Will Learn

● Introduction (30 minutes)
○ Define your brand keywords
○ What is Video Marketing and why is it important?
○ What videos can you create vs what you actually cover

● Brand-building Video – Tools (30 minutes)
○ The Video Camera (DSLR, Mirrorless or Mobile?)
○ Video Supports and Stabilizers
○ Video Editing Software ( Adobe Premiere, Final Cut, Filmora )
○ Audio Requirements

● Brand-building Video – Techniques (1 Hour)
○ How to Film Interviews
○ Filming Non-Actors or Normal People
○ Getting Great Responses from Interviewees
○ Shooting B-Roll

● Brand-building Video – Storytelling (1 Hour)
○ Basics of Storytelling
○ Storytelling for Organizations

Who should attend?

– Corporate communication professionals
– Digital marketing agency staff
– PR practitioners
– Video producers / Videographers
– Content publishers
– Or anyone using video to sell or raise awareness of a product, service or cause.

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Event Details:

Date: June 10, 2017
Time: 9AM – 12NN
Venue: PenBrothers
6F 100 OPL Building, C. Palanca cor. Dela Rosa St. Legazpi Village, Makati City

Learning Rates:

  • Early Bird Rate: Php 1,000 (until May 22)
  • Regular Rate: P1,500
  • Bring-a-Buddy Rate: P2,500

**Workshop Fee is inclusive of handouts, certificates, giveaways and snacks!**

For more details contact:
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How To Set Goals With The Gear Yourself For Success (GYFS) Method

Knowing how to set goals is important in getting what you want and succeeding in life, especially in entrepreneurship and self development – for example, learning a skill or building your own business.

However, not many people can do goal setting right for them. Some know how to set goals but don’t seem to find the result they want right away. This is because the goal setting methods that are being used don’t apply universally.

Each person is unique and therefore, have different needs when it comes to goal setting. Here I’m going to show you how to set goals simply with a 5-step process I personally use: The GYFS Method.

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What is the GYFS Method?

GYFS Method stands for Gear Yourself For Success.

It’s a system I’ve developed for myself after having so many planners and journals on my arsenal; none of which worked to fit my needs and lifestyle.

The best part? This planner is only 5 pages.

Whoaaaa. 5 pages?! Are you sure???

Technically it’s 4 pages – because the planner really is just 4 pages. The 5th page is a bonus page of 30 tips for success. It comes in handy, I promise. 😉

How does that work if I only have 5 pages?

Glad you asked! What makes it different is that majority of the GYFS workbook focuses on habits, reflection and macro goals. By setting the foundations, you’ll eventually learn how to set goals properly and suitably for you.

I’ll teach you how that works in the later part of this post.

Note: Before you start, it’s essential to know that this workbook is designed for an annual goal setting. Your goals may or may not change over the course of 1 year so it’s best to mark the workbook with the year you’re doing it for.

 

Page 1: Strengths, Weaknesses and Inspirations

The first part of this goal setting method focuses on your strengths and weaknesses. Page 1 is all about knowing you and your skills.

Learning how to set goals with strengths and weaknesses makes your character stronger because you know which areas you have to improve and keep on improving.

It consists of 5 boxes:

  1. The 5 skills you know and love to do
  2. The 5 skills or experiences you lack
  3. The things you can do with your 5 strengths
  4. The things you need to overcome your 5 weakness
  5. A list of your inspirations to be checked daily

 

Page 2: Triggers and Major Monthly Goals

Page 2 enlists your triggers – both positive and negative triggers and your monthly goals.

By being aware of what motivates you and ticks you, you will be more wholly prepared in knowing how to set your goals.

The monthly goals tab focuses on one goal per month. This way, you can fulfill your goals in a more convenient fashion. It trains your mind to take on one big project at a time instead of being caught up in multiple confusing tasks.

Feel free to adjust your goals as you see fit.

Move them, switch them or even delete them… it’s up to you. The point in having these 12 boxes is for you to have a space of purpose for the year.

 

Page 3: Habits, Rewards, Consequences & Support

Page 3 concentrates on the four aforementioned elements: habits, reflections, rewards and supporters.

Habits

95% of goal setters fail because of one very important trait: habit.

I personally experienced this when setting my fitness goal. I realized that while I was motivated to lose and maintain weight, my exercise habits and grocery shopping didn’t reflect my goal. So I relapsed.

For the better part, I think this year I’ll start taking my goals more seriously but still with fun of course.

However, I’ll keep in mind that through habits, knowing how to set goals will be much much easier.

The first box requires you to set at least two (2) alarms daily.

Research shows that a daily reminder is appealing to effective goal implementation.

Rewards & Consequences

For this part, it’s all about knowing the WHY behind your goal. Aside from the HOW, it’s also vital that you are clear on the purpose of what you intend to do.

What is your “why”?

A clear path is the best path so writing the reasons & consequences will help you know how to set goals better.

This section is composed of the next three (3) boxes:

  • Your major why and its impact or the “how”
  • Future introspection or “What would happen? How will you feel?”
  • 12 monthly rewards

Major why measures your drive and how badly do you want this goal to happen in your life.

How does this also impact you? How drastic will your lifestyle change positively if you do this goal?

Future introspection is a future reflection on what might happen if you do not take action on your goal.

What will be affected? How will it make you feel?

12 monthly rewards is my favorite! This part is where you get to reap all the rewards of your hardwork! Goal setting ain’t fun when you get nothin’ right? *snap snap* So I deviced this part for you to write each of the month with a reward sitting right next to it.

Support

What’s goal setting without support, am I right?

It can be very lonely when trying to learn how to set goals for yourself and follow through. So what’s the remedy?

A strong social foundation for what you want to do!

This may or may not be the same social circle you have now, but most likely I can tell you that it will be SO MUCH fewer than what you typically socialize with!

Why?

It’s because of this word: niche.

A niche is a particular interest narrowed done from one vague topic.

Think of the term goal setting. That’s the general thought. The niche could be fitness, business or education – it depends on what you’re going after.

So say, if you’re into fitness… a rather narrower niche in it could be running or jogging. And if you’re into these activities you need to find friends who are also into running or jogging too. Find a running group or jogging group near you and enjoy participating in activities.

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Page 4: Staples & Pick-Me-Uppers

This page gets you workin’ on your feet!

It consists of the following boxes:

  • Ideal work places (places of concentration; where you work best)
  • Optimal work schedule (times you work best)
  • Essential tools you need before working (so you can prep and get straight to your thing right away!)

The last two are crucial so pay attention to these too:

  • Activities you can do when you are low on motivation
  • A message to yourself

These two are powerful because if you know what you can do on days where it’s all monochrome, you’ll know how to bounce back to your goals much quicker than the last time.

 

Page 5: 30 Tips For Success

I’ll keep this a secret so you’ll have some surprise but trust me this page is waaaaaaaaay too good! I’d suggest you print two copies – one in your GYFS workbook and the other for your wall as a poster.

That way, your mind is constantly reminded to read them when your alarm rings for the GYFS reminder.

So that’s it. Congratulations on reaching the end! Now you have a more simplified way of setting goals and in turn you now know how to set goals short term and long term!

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Honestly, this blog post was way longer than the workbook itself. I figured it’ll just be a great expansive guide for you in case you need me to explain further. 😀

If you have questions on the workbook or the method itself, just hit me up in the comment section, tweet or send me a message on Twitter/Instagram (@earthloveskin) or email me here.

Again, thanks for sticking out! Paalam!

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Take A Break: 12 Ideas To Deal With Your Day Off + 5 Energizing Habits To Get Over That Slump

What do you do on your day off? Does work pour over and spill on your supposed leisure time? Are you unaware of how to spend your free time?

I know, some days you just don’t feel like doing anything and you’d call it a day. If you’re remotely like me, sometimes it could even extend to a week. It’s a hiatus that’s hard to deal and break.

And I’ll tell you that’s okay. Don’t feel guilty at all!

Because after weeks of hard work and constant movement, our body will eventually say, “Yo, I need a break. Can we stop and catch up for a while?”

But oops, if this “break” is too long and you feel you’re in a rut, what to do?

 

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1. Watch and binge!

You’ve heard of “Netflix and chill” right?
Or iFlix. Or Google Movies.

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Whatever your provider is, you get the point.

This one may be a cliché but the first thing I do when I’m exhausted is enjoy some visual entertainment. I go on an adventure with a movie like The Secret Life of Walter Mitty, be swept away by romance like City of Angels, Little Manhattan or Chasing Liberty, or ride on the thriller train with Stranger Things and Lord of The Rings.

Binge for 3 days to a week if your body is really needing a wind down. Listen to it and it will tell you how much time you need.

After that, the negativity you’re feeling is out of your system.

It’s a decent purge, I tell ya.

 

2. Catch up on what you saved

Saving too many bookmarks full of blog posts, articles and videos that you thought you’ll ever watch but never got around to? Me too.

Since I use Pomello, a little Pomodoro timer when I’m working, the pockets of 5-10 minute breaks are then my chance to catch up on some of them.

You can do this too and set aside a minimal of 20-30 minutes. And if you’re ever more vacant than that, go for an hour or three.

 

3. See the sun and feel the outdoors

So much immersion plugged all day to the internet can wear you down. Break the cycle for a bit by enjoying the outdoors and the sunshine.

You’d be surprised at what 20 minutes of walking or playing outside can do to your mood.

As a mama, this part is inserted in my weekly routine when Avis insists on going outside to the clubhouse grounds. It’s really hard to say no to that kid you know? Especially if she’s been cooped up and busy with Youtube or indoor playing for days. Yikes.

If you’re totally busy like my daughter, you could maybe get the chance by walking when you’re doing your daily commute instead of conveniently riding to a near destination.

Another idea is to bike your way around if you have one. It’s effortless, laid back but nonetheless a good exercise.

Or ya know, just put the damn smartphone and go out in your yard or the curb of your street! Stand there and breathe the air, smell the earth and feel the sun. ?

 

4. Do short minute exercises

Feeling sluggish lately?

It’s usually because of lack of exercise, just ask my friend Coach Sofia.

Lack of exercise can make you stagnant, which seems reasonable because low levels of vitamin D can lead to fatigue and depression.

To help you out, try Sofia’s 15 minute workout here.

A little bit of movement can go a long way.

Personally I like High Intensity Interval Training (HIIT) and plyometrics for 10-20 minutes each round. It challenges my body to rely on weight and intensity to work out my muscles especially my legs and core.

Here are other tips for you to boot:

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5. Go through your social calendar

Just cause you’re working or you’re busy with a project or a client doesn’t mean you can ignore your social needs.

Check your social calendar to see if you have upcoming events.

Hmm. Probably none? I hear you.

Use this time to catch up with friends and relatives. Like they say, “No man is an island”.

Each week you can rotate with different friends, sorting them by proximity or how close their location is.

Budget constraints or don’t feel like going out? No problem.

Allot one day to a particular friend you’ve been dying to catch up all year long and do just that. Choose from Facebook, Viber, Snapchat, Hangouts or Twitter. Even Instagram nowadays is picking up their game on messaging. But yo one word of advice, phone calls and video calls are so much better than typing.

 

6. Write your to-do’s for the upcoming day or week

I know this might sound counter-intuitive, but trust me, there’s nothing like a freed up schedule.

I use Evernote (get your FREE account here!) to jot down my thoughts, notes, to-do’s and plans. It’s very useful and I highly recommend it.

Another free service I use is Trello. It’s like a virtual corkboard where you can organize your tasks. They have apps for the web, the iPhone, iPad, and Android models too so you can bring it anywhere you go.

For now these are my top two, but I promise to write an ultimate list of productivity and management apps and software I use!

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7. Unplug and meditate

Go on a technology detox and shut off your interaction from any gadget during your day off. It’s good for the soul while it lets you reflect on your overall being.

I do yoga and pilates on my spare time, and on days where I play with my daughter or I feel down, I refrain from checking my social media.

It’s hard to keep up when you’re back but hey it’s worth it.

No confusing notifications and headaches for a while!

 

8. Attend an event

Empty days like the weekends can be repetitive. Shake it up for a change by participating in a local event like a conference, a meetup or a bazaar.

? Tip: Use the Facebook events feature, Eventbrite and Meetup.com to discover events near you.

 

9. Date yourself

When was the last time you went on a date?

Isn’t there something magical and romantic in it, don’t you think? While your romantic relationship may or may not exist, it’s still very important to nurture the one with ourselves.

? Here are some ideas:

  • Set up a cozy fine shrine for you, complete with your vision board, dreams and cut out clippings for your future better self.
  • Treat yourself to a nice hearty homemade meal – candlelights recommended.
  • Go to a place where you can be quiet and alone with your soul, like a park or a graveyard (yep! It’s not that spooky in my opinion! Famous writers do it!)
  • Buy flowers and address it to yourself, or pick some from the local flower shop. You can also buy a potted plant and grow it on your own.

 

10. Write yourself a letter

When you’re not having your best week, writing yourself a letter can be therapeutic.

There are 3 forms for this:

  1. Letter of forgiveness. Forgive yourself for feeling guilty and down. There are best days and worst ones, and from my experience, you just have to roll with life to thrive and survive. Forgive yourself for working too hard or too little, because that’s okay. Your days will vary and know that the only pressure you feel is from you.
  2. Letter of appreciation. Gratitude, they say, is the best medicine to a really bad day. Thank yourself for who you are, what you’re capable of, and how far you’ve come can uplift you.
  3. Letter to your future self. Time capsule, anyone? I was watching Peppa Pig with my two-year-old daughter and in one episode they decide to make a time capsule. It’s a really neat idea to have something from the past uncovered in the future. My best bet is you write something that you’d want to read later on. It could be like a dialogue or a discussion of your goals and see years from now if it will happen. Now, that’s magic folks!

 

11. Join a community

It’s a great feeling to belong somewhere. Whether it be online or offline, finding a group where you share common interests is fun, engaging and enlightening.

A sense of belonging is one of the cornerstones in achieving your greater self.

Remember Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs?

Yep. That one.

Find one of the strongest pursuits in your field of interests (say, fitness, blogging or cosmetics) and search a community for it. Chances are, there’s already an existing one waiting to be found.

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12. Do something good

Research shows doing something good makes you feel good. So why not do a little nice activity today?

[excerpt] They found that the more people participated in meaningful activities, the happier they were and the more purposeful their lives felt.

Doing good for the world or for someone increases your happiness and fulfillment. Not to mention it’s a double jackpot too!

How’s that for a change?

? Some ideas include:

  • Volunteering for a non-profit on your weekend
  • Visiting a local charity or orphanage on a Saturday
  • Offer to take up household chores for your family
  • Type someone’s paper
  • Buy someone a subscription to a service they use, like Spotify, Evernote, Trello
  • Bake cookies and send them in bags around your neighborhood
  • Thank the regular blue collar people who come by your house like the newspaper guy, the post man, the street vendor or even the security guard at your favorite establishments and tell them you’re grateful for their service
  • Send an e-card randomly to a friend
  • Put together a playlist

 

And if you’re still feeling a little low and can’t get over the hump, here are 5 energizing habits you can DEFINITELY do any day:

  1. Brush your teeth. 
    It sounds mundane but there’s this wonder of having clean teeth and minty breath to rejuvenate you!When I’m demotivated, it’s surprising how I break the funk once I brush my teeth. Turns out, I’m just annoyed by not having clean teeth. Maybe this’ll work for you too! 🙂
  2. Take a bath.

    Cold baths are for when you need a jolt and warm baths are for lazy, long sluggish days.

    Choosing the right kind of bath is like a make or break. Because hey, if you’re feeling lazy and you so unknowingly jump into cold shower… guess what? It’ll put your mood off even more.It’s like drinking black coffee when you’re really thirsty.
    You’re not getting what your body needs.Rather, take a warm bath to soothe your senses, open up your pores and enjoy a relaxing and healing magic of water.

    On the other hand, don’t get a warm bath when you need to hurry!
    Got it? Good.

  3. Inspire yourself. 
    Successful and goal-oriented people surround themselves with inspiration.It could be people or things, places or quotes you find on BrainyQuotes (don’t you just loooove the many quotes there?!).I, myself, use a Chrome extension called Momentum to get my day started. It’s my substitute for coffee (I quit 10 months ago) and it gives me a glimpse of the time, an inspirational quote, my to-do’s, the weather and my favorite bookmarks. It’s become my essential for the day. And no, this isn’t a sponsored post mwahaha. I wish! But Momentum is cool as a polar bear that I would absolutely suggest having on your Chrome browser. Sorry Safari and Microsoft Edge users. They’re not available for you yet.You can inspire yourself too, by talking to a living inspiration.Have you always wanted to chat with that artist or maker you admire?

    Go ahead and message them!
    You never know, they might just reply! It’ll definitely make your day.

    And while you’re at it, thank them for their talent and go ask them useful questions like what do they do when they’re down, how do they find inspiration in what they do and why they do it.

  4. Have a planner.

    I’ve heard of people who are not much of planners and all I can say is, even if you’re one of the crowd, there’s always room for a little planning.Life just calls for it if you haven’t noticed.If you don’t like the idea of dotting your I’s and crossing your T’s then think of it as a rough preparation.Planning makes your thoughts tangible, and that’s what makes it so powerful to help you get over the slump.

    I recommend one with a monthly/yearly calendar and ample spaces to write appointments as well as blank spaces for your mini and macro goals.

    A perfect example would be my GYFS workbook – did I mention it’s only 5 pages?

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  5. Laugh and get a hug.

    Watch a comedy movie – I recommend anything Jennifer Aniston, Adam Sandler and Jason Segel.Crack a joke and chuckle at yourself for being corny.Get a hug from someone you love, or even a friendly stranger. Yes, your pets count too!


    Because it’s true, laughter and hugs are the best medicine.

 

There you go! I hope these tips sincerely help you.

Let me know what worked and what didn’t in the comments below. I would love to hear your feedback!

Need help? Want to start goal-setting or figuring out your life path but don’t know how?
Contact me here and I’ll respond to you as fast as I can. 🙂

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Kendall Jenner Quits Social Media: What We Can Learn From Her

Kendall Jenner quits social media, but she has a point.

Not that it’s a shocking news to the world (actually it has, with CNN covering it ‘yo). If it was any other 21-year-old, it would have been watered down by the sidelines, but Kendall isn’t just any 21-year-old.

The famous younger Kardashian sister has recently flooded the news because of her sudden social media break. She has deleted her Instagram and have deleted her Twitter app from her phone.

The age of apps and instant messaging

It’s funny how in the old movies, our present was depicted as a future with robots and chrome-laden city (cue Spongebob episode). Yet even though that has not come fully yet, our generation has been taken over by technology. Startups popping left and right, apps being made into business, GPS to track our location… the endless buzz and flood of it all hangs by the thread of a pro or a con.

Kendall Jenner quits social media. Would you?

For someone who’s thinking of doing a “social media detox” I would suggest not to dive head deep into the abyss. You may relapse and regret it later, checking all your thousands of emails in your inbox. Yikes.

So how would you exactly approach the situation?

The solution?

Take a break for a day and see how it goes.

After Kendall Jenner quits social media, she says it has only been 2 days but the world is going crazy over this rather mundane event. What more if it went on for more than a month? Would there be a grave dedicated to her now deceased Instagram account?

Kendall Jenner Quits Social Media: What We Can Learn From Her

Social media detox can save your time and your life

I can’t recall how many times I’ve missed family moments simply because I was busy snapping away for my Instagram and Snapchat. I’m guilty of it too. But what I can tell you is that, make sure if you’re capturing something… make it count!

I have went from the social media overwhelm as well.

There were weeks when I didn’t feel like checking Facebook and any other social media at all.

When I got back on my feet and checked my inbox I had a hundred messages. Oh boy.

But the point is, taking a break can actually save you more time instead of having the fear of missing out (FOMO as what millenials call it).

 

Here are some pointers if you feel like going on a detox like how Kendall Jenner quits social media:

  • EASY: Try out detoxing from your phone and computer for a day or two.
    MEDIUM: Gradually move up to weeks.
    HARD: Until 14 days. Only check it if it’s important like urgent calls and emails.
  • If you cannot do the extreme “day challenge yet” you can start with 15-30 minute breaks, followed by an hour and then 3 hours.
  • Turn off your instant notifications.
  • Log out of your apps if you still want to retain them but don’t want to be notified.
  • Put your phone in silent (not vibrate) option. This way you won’t be tempted to check.
  • For the more temporary and better option: Turn off your WiFi.
  • Only add people you actually know and enjoy the company of.
  • Place your phone somewhere you may feel too tired to reach.
  • Or rather: Entrust your phone to another close human being and make a pact not to give it until you’re done with your detox or whatever it is that you’re concentrating on.

 

When is it best to do the social media detox?

Whenever you feel that looming sense of overwhelm, that’s when you know. But for a more intricate guideline here’s my guesstimate:

  1. Weekends starting 7AM on Saturday to 11PM Sunday.
  2. Family occasions take an hour or two break. Leave phone at your hotel room or accommodation.
  3. During travels take a camera instead of your phone. Not only do you save your phone’s battery, but you’ll take better high def pictures as well.
  4. Hikes explanatory right? Bringing a cellphone in the mountains may be necessary for survival but you’ll probably not get a decent reception.
  5. Family meals oh this one’s a doozy. Many times I’ve seen people eat at restaurants while checking their phones. I used to be guilty about this, but I think here’s where the part of “bless us O Lord for the food we eat” comes in, because how can we bless our food properly if we’re Instagraming it before saying grace? At least say our graces first, amen?

 

Anyway, Kendall says this whole phase is a “detox” as it has taken over her life quite frankly. She says every morning and before bedtime, social media is her bff. But she might be back, just not soon enough.

See the full interview below.

Well, we can surely learn from that. Thanks Kendall.

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Design Your Health 2016

Hey Filipino dreamers!

Be part of the first Health and Wellness Fair this October!

Design Your Health is a 2-day holistic health and wellness fair that aims to promote holistically healthy lifestyle.

It showcases the importance of your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual activities that affect the overall design of your health and well-being.

Aimed towards entrepreneurial moms, young professionals, and health-conscious consumers, Design Your Health proposes a unique approach to wellness. Attendees and participants will be treated to a healthy mixture of stores, workshops, clinics, and talks that introduce and showcase a holistically healthy lifestyle.

It’s happening this October 8 and 9, 2016 at the Mandala Park, Shaw Boulevard, Mandaluyong City.

 

The event will feature 50 bazaar exhibitors: workshops on arts, fitness and entrepreneurship; and talks by experts on health and wellness.

Click on below links to see what workshop/ class that suits your needs and preferences best:

Entrance Fee to the Expo: 150php (FREE if you register to at least 1 of the workshops)

Register here:

Design Your Health is brought to you by Unilab Foundation. All proceeds of the fair will go fund the health programs of Unilab Foundation particularly on kids’ nutrition, therapeutic and developmental play for children, and employment of persons with disabilities.

Contact:
Tiffany Vargas
09985603398
tiffany.vargas@manilaworkshops.com
for inquiries or sponsorship.

I highly recommend on going. I’m stoked to see what’s in store for us tomorrow. Remember, wellness is overall. It starts within you, through you and by you.

See you tomorrow, dreamers. Keep on thriving. ?✨

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25 Important Things You Need To Know By 25

There comes a time when kids turn to young adults, and young adults turn to — well, adults.

Do you even know what capital gains is?
Or how about filing taxes as a freelancer?
What are the requirements & procedures of setting up your own business?
Maybe you’d like to know why you should enjoy that bookkeeping subject seriously?

In the face of an impending quarter life, these questions might pop up so it’s best to be prepared. Read on what it’s like to be 25 as these advices for young adults will surely come in handy.


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Blogopolis 4D Ticket Giveaway

Thinking of growing your blog to the next level?

This Saturday, I will be attending Nuffnang Philippines’ Blogopolis 4D, one of the country’s biggest and most talked about blogging and social media events. And the best part – you can come with me!

I will be giving away one (1) FREE ticket to a lucky reader!

Read on for the full instructions.

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